Discourage kids from tale telling
Many mums will have lost count of the times their little one has come breathlessly running up to them and informed them incredulously about the latest "naughty" exploits of their sibling or friend. The child clearly wants mum to tell off their playmate in a way that will raise their own self esteem. Kids sometimes believe that by 'telling over' their friend, they will gain approval by the adult, as their opinion of the other child sinks.
However, telling tales is not always a negative character trait, according to one writer on the Babycentre website. In fact, it can sometimes show that the child is eager to stick to the rules, and demonstrate to Mum that he knows right from wrong. "Even so, the behaviour is something you'll want to nip in the bud quickly, because no one likes a tell-tale - even at this tender age," says the writer.
Before tackling the situation, advises the writer, ensure that what the child is 'tattling' about is not something he should be telling mum about. Parents can tell their child to tell them when someone is doing something dangerous and offer positive reinforcement by way of praise whenever he reports something that could help. The site advises that parents say: "Thank you for looking out for your brother. That will help keep him safe," in this situation as it avoids inciting further sibling rivalry.
One idea the site has to curb the tale telling is to ensure it involves extra work for him. For example, make him draw a picture of the incident, so that next time, he might decide it is not worth the effort.
In other parenting advice, one writer on parenting.org has said that it is important to instil a feeling of good sportsmanship in kids. Mums and dads should lead by example when it comes to teaching their little ones that it is the taking part that really counts.
Posted by Michael Paige
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